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Thursday, December 15, 2011

"But I'm an Old Lady."

"But I'm an old Lady." This is a response I hear all the time, when I approach people and ask if I can take their photograph. I always reassure them that they look wonderful and are exactly what I'm looking for. It saddens me to think that these gorgeous,vital, and creative women are made to feel less important and less beautiful as they age. The woman above started off by questioning why I would want to photograph her. After I was finished she thanked me with a big smile on her face and told me that I had made her day. There is no question in my mind, why I would be inspired by this elegant woman. I don't want my photos to be spectacular and original, in fact I want them to get so familiar and boring that we all get used to looking at age in a new light. Maybe if we shift our attitudes towards getting older a little, the ladies I meet will start replying "But of course, I'm an Old Lady" instead.

61 comments:

rarebird said...

Thank YOU Ari! :-)(From a woman who is 48 and already know what you are talking about)

sacramento said...

I don't want my photos to be spectacular and original, in fact I want them to get so familiar and boring that we all get used to looking at age in a new light.
This is what makes you GREAT!!!

SymbioticLife said...

I'm going to be very honest. Your site has completely changed how I people watch. I find myself seeing older people all the time, looking fabulous. I can't tell you how many times I've wished that I had my camera and the guts to approach some of them and ask to take their photo. Women with their salt and pepper hair done impeccably in a french twist, a beautiful belted trench, and heels that would give any 20 year old trouble walking. Gentlemen wearing dark navy trousers with a crushed velvet blazer with elbow patches on it a slightly lighter shade of blue and a pocket square of contrasting color. The white hair as an amazing exclamation point to the whole look, that style has nothing to do with age. Brilliant goals to have with your website and I think you're achieving them!

Anonymous said...

This lady is lovely and amazing. I love her style. I hope I look as good when I'm her age. Thank you for sharing.

Beth said...

What a lovely woman.

estroJen said...

Excellent and inspiring post :)

Britta said...

Though I don't dare to ask for a picture (I have my camera always with me) I do something else, sometimes: I tell the Lady "You look really beautiful!" and till now they were all surprised - but very glad.

Carola said...

Thank you Ari! I'll make sure I show this to my mom. She is a gorgeous woman, but has that same response. These holidays, I think I am going to ask her to wear her most glamourous outfits and will take pictures of her.

Mother Jones RN said...

Ari, you have a sweet and gentle soul which allows you to see the goodness in others. YOU are amazing. Thank you for your blog.

Anonymous said...

beautiful, soulful looking woman.....

Lauren said...

This lady is beautiful and stylish, and you are wonderful for sharing her with us and for making her day. I really love what you said about your work. As an older woman and streetsyle photographer myself, I am absolutely delighted when I come across someone like this "old lady" to photograph.

The Styleseer
http://styleseer.blogspot.com

This is Belgium said...

to me she has an incredibly beautiful face ! stunning !

Fashion Flirt said...

This is my favorite of all your posts. Made me smile, gave me warm fuzzies.

Knitting-twitter said...

a beautiful lady and she proves that beauty has got nothing to do with age...

hello haha narf said...

i have always found seniors incredibly gorgeous and it thrilled me to read your words today, even more so than usual.
the lovely lady shown here is simply gorgeous. thanks for sharing her!

Yael said...

This woman - lady - looks gorgeous! She is truly beautiful!

That's Not My Age said...

She is beautiful - and you're right, we need to see more older people and less ageism in the media. Hopefully your brilliant photos, and the work of other older bloggers, will help to shift attitudes.

Sparks In Spring said...

I enjoyed browsing your blog, this lady so sweet and beautiful. Her style is truly effortlessly chic. :)

Mary W. said...

How elegant this woman looks, and I love the way her scarf is tied casually around her neck.

I'm 58 and couldn't agree more--women are treated as if we are invisible as we age. Thanks, Ari, for your efforts to change popular perceptions.

Anonymous said...

She is really beautiful, I love her style, chic colors, you can just see her inner wisdom and poise in her face. Her lipcolor is so modern and flattering, just the perfect bit of color to her monochrome ensemble.

Victoria said...

Yes, she is very beautiful and I love her style, very chic.

Annette said...

Thank you so much for your wonderful blog. I read it every day and love it! This lady is so beautiful and classy. I am enjoying seeing truely beautiful women of advanced age, I'm not far behind at 58. Thanks for the encouragement.

Patricia said...

A beautiful, profound post. Thank you.

Anonymous said...

Your blog is so refreshing. So sick of seeing only fashion editors and stick thin young things in head to toe designer clothes which they have undoubtedly received gratis photographed by a certain celebrated blogger and his wife.

Marie a la Mode said...

Such a well-written and inspiring post. This woman is so beautiful!

CARRIE said...

Good style is ageless.

Thisisme. said...

That lady has such a beautiful face. I'm so glad you made her feel happy.

gail said...

Ari how great of you to make her day.
You see, many of us folks over 60 have become invisible. That's why I like your blog.

The issue is not just the pictures, but it is greater: you are once again bringing visibility to humanity.

Particularly in the western culture we have no respect for individuality and for wise people(older people)And the reason why is because we just don't fit in.

We have to diet and become reed thin and wear what the hip people wear just to get "minimum" respect(and I do mean minimum)...

Anyone who thinks that to look conservative and or to look like a model after 60 is deluding themselves if they think younger folks will accept you.

Where does the conformity end? with nose jobs, wrinkle remover...well forget that...

I'll take self expression and individuality any day.

Can you just believe that employers are now stating we don't want to hire the unemployed or the long term unemployed...and guess who just may be in that category? older people.

So at least... can't we just have something in our life that no one can take away? our expressions, our individuality and yes our need to be visible.

What's so wrong with that?

I have pondered deeply what is going on that you should have to even do a blog like this one? What I found is that there is a collective consciousness of "shame" about our older and wiser beings.

And for the life of me I can't figure out why anyone should be ashamed of anyone expressing themselves, unless they have an inner insecurity about themselves.

So I say keep going Ari and give this world one big fat dose of "visibility" for those who are wise beyond measure.

AKA Jane Random said...

She looks amazing and gorgeous. Love this blog so much.

Maria said...

this made my day:)

Linnea said...

Beautiful lady

"Auntie" sezzzzzz... said...

Dear Ari, you do a lovely service to all we "Olden" ladies. Thank you.

Gentle hugs,
"It is good to be children sometimes,
And never better than at Christmas."

~~Charles Dickens

Holly said...

I realized some time ago that all my life the women I admired for their style and class tended to be older. Thank you for what you do and for expressing it so eloquently.

Forest City Fashionista said...

She's lovely! I hope I live to see the day when women "of a certain age" no longer feel invisible. It's going to take an attitude shift in both society as a whole, and women themselves, and a more inclusive definition of beauty, that includes wrinkles and gray hair.

Kieli_Heart said...

Gorgeous photos! I am so glad there are still people out there that appreciate the beauty in everything, no matter how old or how young. There's just something about women like her that is just so captivating. And very classy!

Thank you for sharing! I'm definitely following this blog =)

~ Kieli ~

Angele's Style said...

Ari, YOu warm my heart with the reason you blog. Your photos are incredible because they are so REAL. I have always maintained the reason people feel sorry for "old people" is because of the way they are always depicted in sitcoms and commercials as very needy or pathetic crazies. Finally you are putting the spotlight exactly where and how it needs to be. HOORAY and thank heaven for you!!!!

Anonymous said...

Thank you so much for your blog! It has made me feel much better about myself.

Anonymous said...

At 96 my Mother always described herself as getting old. When asked how old she would be when she was old, she replied, "oh I don't know. 100? Maybe?" She also said you don't even start getting old until you're around 80.

Barbara Dunshee said...

My favorite posting of yours to date. Beautiful idea, beautiful words. I love your revolution.

Michelle Lee said...

Shes so beautiful

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Anonymous said...

I look at your blog and see my aging self in a new light -- there are no fewer fashion possibilities now than when I was very young. I gravitate towards the classic style worn by the woman you featured today, but have added more color thanks to Ilona et al. And Ari, your photos are never boring.

Bela Monstro said...

I loved your text. You're so right. This lady is really elegant and has such a beautiful face. Those eyes are again full of life.

Celynne said...

It's such a shame that being old is so looked down upon, and that the elderly are so little appreciate. Yes, they're older than us. But they're more experienced, more knowledgeable, and they have thoughts and feelings and desires just like everybody else. And they also often have super awesome style, like this lady and all the others :)

Pearl said...

I adore you blog! I started my own personal style blog because my grandma was always impeccably dressed, down to the perfect details, and when she passed away last year, I was given all of her clothes. I cherish them and wear them daily - but put a more age appropriate spin on them. But what I love the most is that even as she approached 90, her style was so timeless and classic that I can wear the same clothes and feel close to her still. Style and the daily consideration of it should transcend age, it has to do with personality, confidence (even lack thereof) and care. Keep up your wonderful blog!

xXx
Pearl
http://laperleaparis.blogspot.com

Pattyskypants said...

She is gorgeous, and you have an excellent eye. We are all very segregated by age, unfortunately. I don't think I will ever be able to step into a Senior Center without feeling disposable. xxoo Patty

Lily said...

I'm studying nursing and used to work in gerontology. In my work, I have become privy to how unkind time can be (will be) to human beings as we age. What you do with this blog is really special -- celebrating the beauty of aging. Keep up the great work.

Emil Lee Wroth said...

Great! Just great!

Lise said...

Ari you are no doubt changing our ideas about aging thank you for that coz as many comments have said you are making growing older something to look forward to. Heck after seeing Cindy Joseph (60 yr old model) the other day I wanted to have grey hair & watching Lyn Dell & the bevvy of beauties here it is sonething to be celebrated. Tks Ari for changing the way we view our advancing years xx

Jennifer said...

Hear, hear! And the closer photo of this beautiful woman is just wonderful.

CarolWL said...

Inspiring. You know her closet contains only classic, quality clothing, and that as a result, she looks great every day. You can just tell...

Anonymous said...

.................... nice ^_^v ................

Anonymous said...

I had a thought this morning how wonderful it would be to send the film for these pictures to nursing homes so pictures of these wonderful stylish people could be put up on a wall(as a movie screen) for people to view. I think it would restore some good feelings, increase confidence and let people know that outside these aged homes are people like Ari who truly care that all human beings are respected and revered.
What say you Ari? Have you thought about implementing some type of program in one of the NY homes for the aged and taking your photos in and projecting on a large screen for all to see. Let us know what impact it has on our seniors. I really think they'll get a kick out of it and just may share with you some of the outfits they use to wear and even the history of the times for those outfits.
Again Ari, thanks so much for what you're doing.

Cheairs Redefining Typical said...

I found your blog from a friend who liked one of your posts on facebook. I just love it! Wonderful! I blog about my journey with my son who has autism. I always love to find blogs that are uplifting, encouraging, and give a different perspective on life. So thank you. I am getting ready to share a link of your blog on my facebook page too!

josephine ruth said...

I love so many of your posts but this one especially. Thank you for helping shape our view of what beauty is and redefine it for future generations.

delle baguette said...

EXACTLY! My blog is like yours except that as I don't yet have the guts to approach senior citizens, my photos come from wider sources and my own are taken from afar. I might even build up the nerve to start asking them upfront, since it surely makes anyone's day to be selected out of the crowds...
goldenaged.tumblr.com

delle baguette said...

“For the unlearned, old age is winter; for the learned it is the season of the harvest.”

The Talmud

ian said...

she is so very lovely.

Daryl Wark said...

Love, love, love your blog.
So great that you capture stylish mature people in there prime no matter what age that is.
Don't know your blog well enough to see if you feature gentlemen?. But all the women look truely fabulous.
Funny how we all think when we are young that we are the "bee's knee's". But soon discover as we get older we suddenly are invisible. So good to see people on the street who don't give up on style no matter what there age.
The are a few too many people in the public who are just young and pretty, (either sex here) who wouldn't have a clue what real style is.
To quote I think Chanel, (sorry if I am wrong) "Fashion fades style is eternal". I think the same can be said for age. Beauty and youth fade in time but style is eternal.
Big congratulations on your blog. Keep showing us the really beautiful people who will endure what ever there age.

Warm regards,
Daryl Wark

Nadine D said...

I saw this lady in a Toronto Starbucks. A young construction worker stopped her to tell her she looked stunning, so she is used to receiving compliments!

Nadine D said...

I saw this lady in a Toronto Starbucks. A young construction worker stopped to tell her "she looked absolutely stunning". She must be used to receiving compliments!

Lara said...

Love, love, love your ethos, attitude and work, Ari <3

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